Connecting Point – Wisdom: Wise Sex

Connecting Point – Wisdom: Wise Sex

Sunday’s message: wise sex, as outlined from the book of Proverbs. Solomon writes a lot about sexual behavior in Proverbs, particularly immoral sexual behavior. This topic is the dominant theme in the first 10. [References include: Prov. 2:16-19, chapter 5, 6:32-35, chapter 7.]

The matter of sexual behavior may be one of the largest disconnects between the culture and Christian teaching. George Barna, the “Gallop Pollster of the Evangelical Church” found that when it comes to pre-marital sex among teens and young adults, unmarried couples living together, and viewing pornography, the evangelical church tracks just slightly behind those polled who to not claim any connection with Christianity or a church.

Solomon’s wisdom on this topic was designed to protect our souls, our emotions, our physical bodies and our relationships from damage and destruction.

Unfortunately, Solomon did not abide by his own advice. Proverbs was written in his early adult years. According to 1 Kings 11:1-3, eventually, King Solomon became the husband of 700 wives and built a harem with 300 women in it to provide him all of the sexual entertainment he wanted. We learn in the remaining verses of this chapter that because of this his heart was turned away from God. In fact, the consequences of Solomon’s sexual misbehavior affected an entire nation!

#1: To those who are married: Engage in sexual behavior only with your spouse. Be faithful to your spouse. (Proverbs 5:15-17, Hebrews 13:4, Proverbs, 5:18-20)

Husbands and wives, be faithful to your mate.

  • Don’t flirt with anyone except your husband or wife.
  • Don’t allow yourself to get into compromising situations with someone of the opposite sex where you work, where you go to school, with your friends, in conversations on Facebook,
  • Don’t meet/travel one-on-one with a person of the opposite sex for business.
  • Build fences around your marriage to protect it.
  • “Faithful” does not mean boring. It means: “Keep the romantic fires hot at home.”

#2: For those of you who are not married abstain from (explicit) sexual behavior. (Proverbs 5:15-17)

  1. First, you are in good company: The apostle Paul and Jesus to name a couple.
  2. Second, living a single life is not a curse; the perspective in the NT is that it’s a blessing, see 1 Cor. 7:32-38.

#3: To those who are living unwisely in this area of your life…single or married: Orient your life towards purity. (Proverbs 2:16, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Corinthians 6:18)

  • Run from physical adultery. If you are in a physical relationship with someone who you are not married to…run.
  • Run from mental adultery (pornography, sexually explicit movies and TV shows. It is not entertainment. It is immorality).

Challenges toward purity:

  • Stop doing something. Stop watching some show or stop visiting a web site.
  • Start doing something. Start flirting with your mate or start dating your mate or start being accountable to a trusted friend. Seek marriage counseling, read a book on how to make your marriage better.

Your choice, but consider the potential consequences if you don’t…or if you do.



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