Connecting Point: Wise and Unwise Words

Connecting Point: Wise and Unwise Words

Sunday at River Oaks was filled with lots of good words. Prior to the worship (singing), Greg Tipton, chairman of the Elder Board, announced:

  1. The hire (part-time) of Dustin Kaehr for our Associate Pastor to assist with Sunday morning and midweek teaching, as well as our small groups, within Adult Ministries. Welcome aboard to Dustin!
  2. In celebration of Tim & Gloria’s 25 years of service at River Oaks, they were given a surprise Alaskan Cruise. We are blessed by Tim and Gloria’s longevity, leadership and care to the River Oaks’ body!

Pastor Tim continued the Wisdom series by addressing the issue of “the tongue”; the words that come from our mouths—wise and unwise. Words can deliver death or they can deliver life.

  • Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue can bring death or life.”
  • James wrote in 3:2, “If we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.”

Words That Deliver Death

Gossip– unnecessary talk about someone to someone without knowing what you are saying is even true.

  • Proverbs 11:13.” A gossip goes round telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.”
  • Proverbs 16:28, “Gossip separates the closest of friends.”
  • Proverbs 10:19, “Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”

Before sharing sensitive information about someone ask yourself:

  1. Why am I sharing information about someone else?
  2. If the person I plan to talk about were present, would I say what I’m about to say or change it?

Destructive criticism-the unleashing of harsh, and often angry, words towards someone without any intention that the words will help them. They are intended to hurt and not help.

  • Proverbs 12:18, “Some people make cutting remarks but the words of the wise bring healing.”
  • Proverbs18:14, “The human spirit can endure a sick body, but who can bear a crushed spirit?”
  • Proverbs 13:3, “Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.”

Words That Deliver Life


  • Proverbs 12:25, “Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging words cheers a person up.”
  • Proverbs 15:4, “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”
  • Proverbs 16:24, “Kind words are like honey – sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

When you encourage people, you are acting wisely because you are inflating people’s spirits!

Constructive criticism– The intent of constructive criticism is to help the person. It may hurt in the short run but there is intent to correct and aid the person.

  • Proverbs 9:8, “So don’t bother correcting mockers; they will only hate you. But correct the wise and they will love you.”
  • Proverbs 15:31, “If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise.”

If you are going to be critical of someone, do your level best to make it the constructive kind.

This week, unleash the power of your tongue:

  • NO gossiping or destructive criticism
  • Give daily encouragement and if necessary, offer constructive criticism.
  • Memorize Proverbs 18:21

Also, remember to…

  • Keep reading Proverbs!
  • If you have gone through Proverbs twice, sign up for the drawing…
  • Read the list of verses on the blog:
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